Conjured Feelings

Was talking to a friend on msn the other day, probably weeks ago by now. She was acting weird and the way she type was rather deflective and so I decided to probe the situation.

Asked about her bf and all but she was not answering the questions.

Finally, the conversation brought us to a halt when she said, "he's a nice guy and he's a great bf...".

What does that mean? He has done nothing wrong, he has been nothing but great. The crucial point would be that you feel lesser for him. He hasn't done any mistakes, at least insufficient for you to leave him. What becomes of the relationship? Drag it on further? Or force it to end?

He has been a sweet heart but you feel the certain annoyance as he tries harder to pamper you because the way you look at him has changed. He hopes to fix the problem. Would it help?

The girl doesn't neccesary has to have feelings for someone else. She probably just meet more people in life, done more things in life and experienced a whole lot more. All these would change how a person react and behave. Perhaps what the guy has is no longer a vital need for the girl...

But...

In general, I believe a relationship that heads this direction... The guy is often the one being left behind... He's stagnant in life while the girl has moved along. I would agree that guys cheat... They show higher percentage of infidelity but when they do love.... They would pour their soul into it, often making them grow slower in terms of life; not size. :D

Girls fall in love with a guy for who he is and what he is. As time pass, the girl would often hope for or wants the guy to adapt and change... Etc etc... 15 years down the road, the wife says... "How come you're not the same man I fell in love with 10 years ago?"

How do we answer?

We would end up wondering, what's the thing in life we want.

Another very dear friend told me. Being with a person and calling the other person sweet names doesn't make you in a relationship. A relationship is where you guys can't get enough of each other. Wanting to see each other all the time. Wherever new place you go, nice things you see, great food you taste... All of which you want to share with the person. When you go shopping or grocery packing, when you buy milk... You don't only think of buying milk; you think of what brand she might prefer... Low fat? HL? Magnolia?

A relationship is where the two shares everything in life... And continue to share...

opalescent emotions amidst the oblique light of life

If fate is an entity, she's really impish.

A personal definition of Fate is, it being the chance of things to happen. Whether we grasp the moment or let it go, its another story. While things can be as shitty as the headlines and its article, Fate do brings me pleasant surprises too ...

Serendipity

'A fortunate accident'

the perfect word to describe us at the moment ...

swept off your feet,
surging flow in your body,
urging thoughts in your mind,
love makes you have all this.

AIMING FOR THIS COMBINATION LATER ON !!! =X

HUAT AR !!!

how how?
what is memories?
how is it that when we watch movies or animations or anything like that...
guy meets girl, spends a very short time together, no love yet...

somehow through hardships, something sparked off...

and after something bad happens... they went adrift or apart....
the only memories they had would be of that few days together...

a few days of memories made them miss each other so dearly... even in the show, the only few memories they show are the ones spent together for that few days... few days of memories made the guy willing to face all the dangers of life just to be with her again. emotions, love, feelings are just so powerful...

what about memories that has been through years? are these worth enough to fight? worthy enough to stay on?

how are humans able to devoid themselves of such thoughts?

what about you?

wordings placed,
thoughts entered,
phrases saved,
memories sealed.

There she was, hugging me from behind..

As i turned my head and met hers, it was a scene that lasted. Angelic face, a faint smile, her eyes fading downwards as though she's eyeing for a bite on my neck.

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This was when my alarm rang this morning..

As i sat up on my bed, my mind cleared, i cursed. Why are my dreams always so beautifully vivid recently? And who is this angelic figure i kept dreaming about recently?

No, i don't remember her features. The dream is strong, but yet i only felt she's angelic. I felt the love she had for me. I felt everything, and goose bumps always come up and down whenever i rethink about the dream.

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Why do boys and girls, fall in love?

Do they see something in each other's eyes?
Is it the thrill and adrenaline being together?
Or because of the very same air both draw upon?

There is no universal answer to my question. Or at least, that is my conclusion. But the crisis of couples breaking up and asking me the same old question over and over again, is somewhat exasperating..

Why did it die?

Love is born from an individual's desire of one's companionship. What kindles the emotion truly depends on different mentalities. Some yearn for excitement, few look towards the future, and the rest, lust. But the truth is, we never much know or really consider our own requirements. Most of the time, we are lured into attraction. When (s)he stands right before us, we know..

And so i would say,
a relationship is formed,
usually in a manner of folly.

"So how do i fall in love?", you may ask.

Long have i pondered over the same query a million times. There was always this same variable from the various love equations i once tried to solve. It is always the same raison d'être why my heart beats.

How do we get to meet,
With such nostalgic feelings,
Out of the many billion others in our world?

The very same truth, averting my beliefs from straying, adoring her every vibe, and cherishing every moment the miracle of life endow us upon.

But the irony is, i have yet met my true 6.8 billionth soul.

Find this real interesting !!! it was a speech by Adrian Tan (writer of the Teenage Textbook & lawyer from Drew & Napier)

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Life & how to survive it ( part 1 )

"I must say thank you to the faculty and staff of the Wee Kim Wee School of Communication and Information for inviting me to give your convocation address. It’s a wonderful honour and a privilege for me to speak here for ten minutes without fear of contradiction, defamation or retaliation. I say this as a Singaporean and more so as a husband.

My wife is a wonderful person and perfect in every way except one. She is the editor of a magazine. She corrects people for a living. She has honed her expert skills over a quarter of a century, mostly by practising at home during conversations between her and me.

On the other hand, I am a litigator. Essentially, I spend my day telling people how wrong they are. I make my living being disagreeable.

Nevertheless, there is perfect harmony in our matrimonial home. That is because when an editor and a litigator have an argument, the one who triumphs is always the wife.

And so I want to start by giving one piece of advice to the men: when you’ve already won her heart, you don’t need to win every argument.

Marriage is considered one milestone of life. Some of you may already be married. Some of you may never be married. Some of you will be married. Some of you will enjoy the experience so much, you will be married many, many times. Good for you.

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I simply love the part whereby he say, "you've already won her heart, you don't need to win every argument" it makes so much sense in today society whereby we start to see so many divorcee around, simply disregarding the day they swear to make that oath to take care of each other forever ... how pathetic it is

thats part 1 of his speech, will share with you more soon !!!

o .. btw I've created my FACEBOOK account ... its like FINALLY !!! friends around me complaining i no "fei wen" .. so i must spice up their life abit ... create some scandalz & rumours for them to gossip !! hahaha just kidding,

but well facebook may be a "scary" tool but i can't deny the fact it is also a tool whereby you keep all your friends connected in some way or another .. so PEEPS, LOVERS, PEOPLE INTERESTED IN CREATING SOME RUMOURS WITH ME CAN START ADDING ME IN FACEBOOK !!!

till then !!!